How To Meet Someone New

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It’s that time, you start feeling lonely, you don’t know what to do, you want to meet someone, someone new, but don’t know how to go about it.

So you might start researching, reading articles, watching videos, talking to friends, et cetera. And now you’re here thinking “What does this person have to say about how to meet someone new?”, right?

I don’t have much, so I won’t keep you long, don’t worry.

My approach is beyond simple. The sauce is in the pudding. Not sure if that made sense, but I think there’s a saying that goes something like that.

The cake is in the pudding?

I don’t know, something. But what I mean is my approach is so easy, there’s nothing really to learn or memorize, instead it’s pretty much literal.

The next time you see someone you want to meet just go up to him or her and say, “Hi, I’d like to meet you.” And if you want to add your “Why?”, you can. That’s it. Let the conversation then go from there.

I know this is so simple it might sound stupid. Or crazy. Or it might seem like it doesn’t make sense. But it does. It gets exactly what you want across. There’s no guessing. No, “Did he or she mean…?”

You’re stating to someone you’d like to meet that you’d like to meet them.

Done.

Now if that someone doesn’t want to meet you, then all good, he or she is not obligated to meet you. But you’re giving them an opportunity to reciprocate positively and meet you. And that someone might actually be open to meeting you. If so, great. That initial meeting can maybe lead to a future meeting, whether it be a date or a collaboration on something, whatever.

In case you don’t think this can work, let me tell you, it can. I’m evidence. I actually met my wife almost a decade ago approaching her and saying, “I’d like to meet you.” Or maybe I said, “I want to meet you..”? It’s been a long time, but what I said wasn’t complicated. Thinking about it I think I actually said my “Why?” first.

Here’s how it went down..

I was at a coffee shop in NYC working on some writing. From time to time I’d look around at my surroundings, escape from the words in front of me for a moment. And at one…